Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Do you have a Guru??

I observe three categories of people in the society very closely. There are Politicians, Cinema actor/actress and Swamijis (Babas). According my estimation, 60 out of 100 in South India get influenced by any of these people (90% in Tamil Nadu).

All these people play vital roles in the lifes of south Indians. Among the above three, Babas are very very dangerous. Once they enter in to your life, you self confidence level will come down and started thinking they are powerful/intelligent than you which is not true in reality.

More and more younger generation is getting attracted to this trend and everybody is searching for a Guru/Baba. One reason for this is the failure of joint family system and technology.

I personal don’t agree the slogan of Nokia (Connecting people). I don’t know whether mobiles are really connecting people or not but surely they are disconnecting the human relations. Earlier, when mobiles are not there, people used to visit relative /friends houses on weekends/holidays. Mobiles are not giving the opportunities for meeting people/for improving human relations. Forget about relations/friends, I know the people who are not getting time to see their own parents due to mobile connectivity. When there is no guidance/help from elderly people in house, swamijis enters in to someones life.

Personally, I am not against to any baba and I also don’t say that they are fraudsters. However, I only want to mention that they are not god and we need not bow our head before them. I somehow don’t accept anyone as greatest person on the earth. He may be expert in his subject/area, but he can’t be god. When we don’t take the help of our parents/elderly people in house and when we believe we are weak, babas comes in the life. It’s just a belief nothing more than that.

One reason for mentioning about babas is, there are the richest people in India today. I know babas who have properties worth hundreds of crores. Instead of spending valuable time and money on these people, if the young generation starts donating to poor, India will prosper like anything. In USA, they are many Bill Gates /Warren Buffets ( Who has donated 90% of their prosperity for the prosperity of their country).

In India, people spend money for god/swamijis only. If the mind set doesn’t change, India will be ‘developing country’ every after 100 years it can’t become ‘developed’ country.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Tuesday, September 7, 2010

The best mirror is an old friend

“Advice from your friends in like the weather, some of it is good, some of it is bad.”

I firmly agree with the above quote. For some, friends are everything and they call a person as friend, only they talk/meet every day.

My definition of friendship is different.

In this busy world I don’t expect a person (whom you consider as friend) to be in touch with me everyday. I also expect the same from others. Too much of interaction with anyone is not good. I also don’t call this as quality of friendship.

For example, due to some known reasons, you haven’t meet/talk with a person (friend) for a quite time. However, when you call/meet him, when he/she speaks with you as if you are meeting every day, it is real friend ship according to me. Friends should be like railway lines (they meet only when it is required).

I personally don’t invite any one into my personal life. I am a private person. Too much interaction with anyone gives the change to others to give free advices to me which I don’t like. I respect others and expect others to respect me.

I have a very little numbers of friends (Well wishers) so far in my life. I don’t interact with any of these friends regularly. However, when I speak/ meet at any time (after a gap of any no of days / years), I get warm affection.

I have met one Gentle Man in july 2005 in ICICI Bank. I was introduced to this Gentleman by my Manager. I was very anxious that day as I got a call from my home informing that my father is ill and I need to go home urgently. I have informed to Manager that I need to go home urgently. This Gentle Man overheard my conversion and said “Please call me sir if you need any help”.

I really surprised by his gesture

This is first time in my life that some unknown person is offering help to me. I don’t know till that day there will be people like him also. Later he became my Boss. I have really enjoyed every moment of life working with this person. After some time, he was moved to other skill so as me.

In my life till date I haven’t met a person like him. I consider him as my Role Model, Mentor and Guru.


This ‘Down to Earth – Humanity’ will be there in my memory forever and I consider him as true friend as per my understanding about friendship.

"Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, and impossible to forget"........